Queer people eat at least four children every year.
For queer feminists, the number is estimated to be double that.i eat eight. i’m a fattie.
January 2012
7 posts
“Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the “boys will be boys” mantra, and that “boys will be boys” mentality leads to what I call the “boiling frog” problem of women’s sexual boundaries. I call it that because if you put a frog into a pot of boiling water, it will jump right out, but if you put a frog into a pot of room-temperature water and slowly heat it to a boil, the frog will acclimate as it heats and never jump out, eventually boiling to death. Similarly, when we learn as young girls to tolerate “low-level” boundary violations like the ones we often are forced to suffer in silence at school, at home and on the street – bra-snapping, boob-grabbing, ass pinching, catcalling, dick flashing “all in good fun” relentless violations that adults and authorities routinely ignore – it makes it harder for us to notice when even greater boundaries are being violated, eventually leading to the reality that many women who are raped just freeze and fall silent, because that’s what they’ve been taught to do over and over since day one. You tell me what’s more infantilizing: repeatedly letting boys (and grown men) off the hook for their behavior because “boys will be boys” and we can’t ever expect any differently, or creating a consent standard in which all partners take active responsibility for their partner’s safety, and which acknowledges the truly diseased sexual culture we’re soaking in every day.”
—source (via aolist)
QVF: A Note About Cissexism... →
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I had a really great pride this year, but I was also troubled by comments I heard over the last week from a lot of people in both the mainstream and radical queer communities. I want to say a few things about cissexism, specifically towards trans women and other MTF spectrum folks.
1) Gay sex does not require genital symmetry.
Most people in the community realize that not all women have the same sex organs, but it seems that a lot of people have a harder time making the leap to realize that you can have super gay sex with someone who has different junk than you. If you think otherwise, you are probably alienating people in your community, not to mention potentially missing out on some hot queer sex!
2) Gay sex does not mean non-potentially-reproductive sex (see point #1).
A lot of people like to claim the contrary… things like, “dykes never have to worry about getting pregnant” and other such nonsense. Claiming that all gay sex is non-reproductive erases the experiences of a lot of trans people and their lovers, and also makes it harder to talk about birth control and safer sex.
3) Don’t call different types of genitals disgusting.
This seems to be a disturbingly common trend in the queer community and has come up several times this week. A lot of people have a hard enough time trying to feel good and confident in their bodies - and welcome in their queer community - without having to hear how disgusting other people think their junk is. This goes for all aspects of peoples’ bodies.
Basically, we all need to have a little sit down and think about the different body/gender combinations that exist in our community and how the things we say and do affect the people around us!
i want to print this on index cards and hand them out at every queer event that happens anywhere from now on, because if i hear one more lesbian imply that trans women aren’t women or another gay man call vaginas disgusting, i will flip out.Some of the queerest sex I’ve had has been with people whose genitals were different than mine, and some of the straighest sex with people whose genitals were similar to mine.
Obviously, not always the case, but genitals are just one small part of the whole experience.
I guess I’ve just spent so much time thinking that gender =/= genitals, and because I’m attracts to lots of different genders, bodies, and genitals, its difficult for me to relate to people who thinking that having sex with someone with different genitals makes them “straight”.
I remember being completely blown away how many people in queer spaces talked about how disgusting X set of genitals were and I felt terrible about it for a long time.
a revelation:
i can’t remember all of it, but all evidence points towards my being THE sloppy drunk girl this last new year’s.
adult. accomplishments.
welcome, 2012.
